Stop identifying with a you that doesn’t exist anymore
Retiring from work is a HUGE transition and seniors often don’t take the time to mentally prepare or adjust to the change. They get stuck identifying themselves with the past and what life used to be like, but the reality is that life HAS changed and it is unlikely to be the way it used to be.
Life does not end because a person no longer has a job title. Nothing can interrupt life; every experience IS life. It’s just one event giving way to the next, with no event that is more important than another; everything is valuable. Ageing and retirement is a part of life experience too.
When we retire, we need to learn to accept that who we once were has changed, and start focusing on what we want from life NOW and how to make it happen.
It’s important to get out of the mindset that focuses on all the things that we’re missing out on and start looking at what we truly want! No one can possibly expect to be enjoying life if they keep looking for everything they don’t have, but have no clarity on what they truly want.
A retired senior needs to ask themselves:
What do I want right now?
Who do I want to be?
How do I want to feel?
What experiences would I like to have?
What do I need right now to start feeling like there is a part of me outside of being a worker or employee?
When they figure out what they want from life, they just need to make it happen.
The only reason why retirees feel they’ve lost their identity is because they are still trying to identify with a person that doesn’t exist anymore. Life has changed. Retirees need to get clear about what they would like to experience and then make it a priority to research and plan how they’re going to get it.